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The Return to Sexual Holiness
An Excerpt from
The End of Sexual Identity
by
Jenell Williams Paris
6. Separation and incarnation.
With respect to the world, holiness requires separation at times and, at other times, meaningful, redemptive engagement. A Christian may seek to be at the same time separate from the world in some ways and deeply engaged in other ways. We can work toward holiness by making cultural engagement thoughtful, aware, intentional and justice-oriented, and move away from that which is selfish, thoughtless or hurtful to others.
Holiness in Community
Taken together, these dimensions clarify the meaning of holiness as a quality of life shared by all believers. With respect to homosexuality, sexual holiness doesn’t boil down the matter to the single question, “Is it a sin?” It honors the importance of this question and the necessity of answering it, but at the same time it recognizes that people and groups will answer it differently. Holiness also doesn’t boil down the complexities of human sexuality to a list of moral rules. It’s not that rules are wrong or entirely unimportant, but they are less important than the believer’s discernment that stems from a transformed mind.
Throughout the apostle Paul’s teachings, including earlier chapters in Romans, Paul tells followers of Christ that they do not need to follow Old Testament law. Jesus fulfilled the law by getting to the heart of the matter, the human heart. When followers of Jesus worship truly (or “spiritually” or “reasonably,” from Romans 12:1), they don’t just follow a new law (the law of Paul, or the law of religious conservatism or liberalism). They cultivate inner transformation that empowers each person to make sober judgments about what is good, acceptable and perfect. Sexual holiness, then, isn’t as simple as a list of do’s and don’ts (a new law), nor is it as open-ended as affirming “healthy” sexuality, however a person may define it.
The renewed mind of the believer flourishes in community. Romans 12:1-2 is written in the plural, addressing individuals gathered together in the church, and the chapter moves immediately to the metaphor of the body of Christ in which each person plays a vital part. In the class in which John and Michelle were students (a Christian college class is one kind of Christian community), the nuances and tensions of sexual holiness provided a better framework for sex and gender issues than the sexual identity framework. Over the course of the class, we discussed a variety of topics. One was heterosexual body modification (makeup, weight lifting, cosmetic surgery, weight loss, fashion and so on) as a strategy for attracting a mate. It became evident that while the cultivation of personal beauty may be an end for which humans were created, we often pursue that end with destructive means. We also viewed a documentary, and admired the nonprofit organization in Thailand it was on that rescues sex trafficking victims and works to prevent children from being sold into slavery. We were reminded that sexual holiness is corporate, public and global, not just a private dimension of our personal lives. In addition, we analyzed media (images and, when relevant, videos and lyrics) from celebrities including Al Green, Beyoncé, Victoria Beckham and Lady Gaga. The tension between separation and incarnation provided a framework for discussing when, and for what reasons, to consume secular media, and what kinds of engagement make a redemptive difference.
Conclusion
Perhaps it’s no coincidence that nursing often has a depressing effect on the female sex drive, while weaning enlivens it. Weaning marks a transition in the woman’s investment of her energy and body, particularly her breasts, in gestating and nursing her infant, and frees her to return to her husband. Similarly, weaning ourselves from sexual identity categories transitions Christians from investing energy in moralizing and making divisions among believers toward really pursuing sexual holiness in our own lives and in the world.
Adam and Eve ate from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, which was knowledge too great for them. We’re like Adam and Eve when we get life from our knowledge of good and evil, setting ourselves as judge of others and of ourselves.9 Maybe human sexuality isn’t created to be a place of fulfillment or perfection, but one of rest and calm. When hope is placed in God, instead of in getting it right, we can be like a quiet child on a mother’s lap. The peace and stillness doesn’t come from being perfect, but from loving and being loved by God and neighbor.
In the post–sexual identity church, there’s no moral high ground for heterosexuals and no closet for homosexuals. There’s just people, each of whom is lover and loved.
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Editor’s Note: This was taken from
The End of Sexual Identity: Why Sex Is Too Important to Define Who We Are
by Jenell Williams Paris. Copyright(c) 2011 by Jenell Williams Paris. Used by permission of
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Press PO Box 1400 Downers Grove, IL 60515.
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What is your initial response to Jenell’s understanding of sexual holiness?
How does this understanding of sexuality alter the way you, as a follower of Jesus, understand the role of sexual holiness in culture, your own life, and your community?
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Mark Gomez
1 Thess 4:3 "For this is the will of God, your sanctification; {that is,} that you abstain from sexual immorality;..."
Wes Widner
But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. -1 Corinthians 7:2
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous -Hebrews 13:4
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. -1 Corinthians 6:18
Mary Moser
Both Mark and Wes said it well. Scripture is sufficient. This day, time, it seems to me is like those of the book of Judges, when everyone did what seemed right to himself.
Mike
This piece exposes much of the deficiency of "scholarly" writing. Rarely has so little been said with so many words. In the end, what is needed on this issue is irenic clarity, not endless nuance, qualification, and obfuscation. The question about sexual identity begs foundational questions: 1) What does the Bible teach about our value as human beings? 2) What does the Bible teach about God's holy design for our sexual expression? On both counts, the Scriptural record is fairly clear. We have immense value, having been made in the image of God. And we are to physically express our sexuality in heterosexual behaviors or to restrain such behaviors outside of monogamous man-woman marriage. Furthermore, the question must be raised: "In discussing sexual identity, who or what group is most eager to use labels of sexual identity as the primary identity markers for themselves?" The answer is revealing. It is a shame that Paris so complicates a subject wth so much confusion.
Caitie
Hi Mike,
I think it is a shame that you so flippantly disregard and insult this writer because you judge her work as deficient scholarly writing. I highly doubt this piece was written exclusively for a scholarly audience even though Jenell is a scholar; by the tone and progression of argument, it seems like she was writing for a general audience who lives with broken lives and bleeding hearts everyday.
From reading this piece, I think the two of you would agree on the principles but disagree on presentation. She writes in a very down to earth, inductive way so that followers of Jesus who live and love LGBT friends can approach this topic with care and not the typical-bible-bullying that communicates nothing but hate. Jenell meets this issue where it is at and presents a new vocabulary for engaging the ideas with the power of the same truths but in a different, less offensive way.
Long gone are the days when only quoting what the bible says about sexuality effectively communicates the Truth to confessing Christians and the rest of culture (look at the statistics for divorce, abuse, etc. We look the same as the rest of culture. The church, as a whole, as failed to hold itself accountable and, for generations, has failed to communicate a compelling sexual narrative).
If communication is for the sake of the audience's understanding (and not our own need to speak) we need to figure out how to hold ourselves and our brothers and sisters accountable for failed marriages, fornication, and sexual abuse while communicating the depths and heights of God's love and grace. Like Leslie Newbigin wrote in Foolishness to the Greeks, we need to become missionaries to our culture and learn to speak their language so that they will hear have a framework for understanding.
Mike-it seems to me that you are attacking Jenell for an attempt to do just that. Read the entirety of her book and then have these discussions with those struggling with sexual identity and see which dialect exhibits God's heart the most.
Ryan Spellecy
It seems to me that all of you make valid points. Yes, Scripture is clear about sexual immorality. Yet Caitie highlights the important point that as Christians, we still have high rates of divorce, infidelity, and so forth. The author's point about moving beyond mere sexual acts and orientation and towards sexual holiness are well taken. We as Christians need to examine our own attitudes towards sex, with an eye towards holiness, and not just "It's hetero so it is OK." Caitie is also right that the days of merely quoting Scripture to unbelievers settles the debate are long gone. What do we want to do...win an argument, or save souls for Christ? That said, I do find it difficult to reconcile some of the author's comments with Scripture. Perhaps I need to check out her book.
Cedric
more to the point the deficiency of reading comprehension is exposed when reading the comments in response to a piece of "scholarly writing".
Jenelle is only fuzzy on the issue of homosexuality if you skim over the article and not take the time to read the whole thing. She is clearly believes that homosexual behavior is a sin and falls short of the holiness standard that God has communicated in scripture.
The point that she is making and possibly isn't as clear on (which is pardonable) is that we as Christians, aren't going to get anywhere calling people who consider themselves homosexual (an increasing number of which are also claiming to be Christian) to holiness arena of their sexual lives. As long as the discussion stays firmly rooted in terms of sexual identity we will never get past the surface of what the real issue is; the contents of the grocery bag. How do you live out holiness in the areas of desire, fantasy, behaviors, relationships, memories, hopes, thoughts, health and marriage.
Moreover, if it's about encouraging people to holiness and not just about who's right and who's wrong then anytime sexual identity is brought up someone will inevitably go to the claim or question, "what if they're born that way?" Well when you discard sexual identity and deal with the contents of the bag that Jenell mentions it's not long before marriage comes up. So irregardless of whether or not someone believes they were born that way or others are born that way, they have to confront the fact that biblical holiness in marriage is strictly defined as one man one woman.
Taylor Long
I may have misread the author, but this statement from the article above seems to get at the heart of what she is trying to do:
"The world in which Christians all agree about sexual issues is an imaginary one. Love of God and neighbor, the heart of holiness, has to be practiced in the real world in the midst of these disagreements."
I fear the author may be dismissive of the magnitude of the issue of sexuality throughout human history, and perhaps blind to the pervasive selfishness and idolatry that both the church and society have bought into in the area of sex in our day.
I agree that the greatest commandment is to love God, and the second is to love your neighbor (irregardless of whether they agree with you on every (or even any) issue). However, when we are talking about striving to be faithful as a Church, especially in the area of our sexuality and how we define it (which has profound implications for individuals, churches and society as a whole), we cannot allow the fact that not all Christians agree about sexual issues to reduce this topic to an interesting talking point with no real implications for the individual or the church, so long as we are all loving and civil about the conversation (and again, I don't know if this was the author's intent). To be faithful means to be willing to critique our own beliefs, to make sacrifices, to limit ourselves in the name of loving God by doing what is right.
For those interested in what I consider to be a more helpful approach to this issue, check out Sarah Williams talk "Sexuality in the Modern Paradigm". I couldn't sleep after I listened to that talk, and it still has me reeling.
Here is the address to it:
http://www.regentbookstore.com/product_details.php?item_id=75971
decarlisle
Keep the main thing the main thing. If you give any impression that homosexuality is condoned then you are in error.
Its not that we should stop them from coming to Christ but unless they truly want to repent same as someone in adultery they should be asked to leave. The Church must do its best to teach and help all in sin but we can't look at it likes it just babies nursing.
Look at what has happened to main stream Churches now they are falling away because of such practices. The interfaith movement and liberalism is not going to bring us back to Holiness but neither is the stiff necked conservative that does not have true love for his neighbor no matter what their persuasion is. I don't think anyone here wants anyone going down the wide path that leads to destruction.
Justin Czekanski
I agree that placing a label of hetero- or homosexuality is not biblical and leads to division rather than unity. On the other hand we must not forget that God has given us two options with regards to our sexuality, that is: marriage or being single.
I do not thing that if you are gay you cannot be saved, but if we want to be consistent with the Scripture - which is quite transparent when it comes to sexuality - God wanted to express unity and holiness through opposite sex marriages.
Even Jesus is called a bridegroom and the Church is called the Bride.
You, Dr. Paris, mention many misinterpretations but I thing that we have to stand firm: tolerance does not equal acceptance.
I do criticize homosexuality, but I also criticize addiction to pornography, premarital sex, etc.
Some of the supporters of the so called 'tolerance movement' would probably call me homophobic - not even understanding that the word they are using has a ridiculous meaning of : "being afraid of humans" (homo - human - as in homo sapiens; phobia - fear"
I don't want the message of Bible to be blurred by the teaching of tolerance. Sin is not wrong because some said so - it is wrong because it brings destruction and open the door for satan, who comes only to steal, kill and destroy.
But this teaching is not as easily acceptable simply because if you mention satan, in the eyes of the world you look like a weirdo. Isn't it so?
Let's just mention that sexual purity and holiness for that matter is what God desires for us not to restrain but to offer us freedom and happiness. I don't want to judge, but haven't we missed it in the church?
Ramesh
Hello, I am from India. I do not understand westerners' obsession with homosexuality. Here in India, homosexuality is banned as a "lewd and obscene act" and "harmful to public decency" under the penal code.
MCole
The Bible is not transparent when it comes to any issue and I think we border on being prideful (deadly sin) when we claim we know the answers to these questions as a certainty. Paul was also transparent when it came to slavery. Jesus seemed to be pretty transparent on the issue of divorce but why don't we hear about that issue as much. Be careful of hypocrisy.
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