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The Return to Sexual Holiness
An Excerpt from
The End of Sexual Identity
by
Jenell Williams Paris
The apostle Paul recognized how the patterns of the world tend to create hierarchies of human worth: “For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of yourself more highly than you ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned” (Romans 12:3 NRSV). Unpacking the groceries is an exercise in sober judgment (we could also call it honest self evaluation or discernment). For some, it may lift them from moral degradation or even dehumanization toward equality; for others, it may chasten their sense of sexual moral superiority.
I began removing items from the grocery bags, cans and boxes relabeled with words such as desire, fantasy, behaviors, relationships, memories, hopes, thoughts, health and marriage. Without meaning to (it seemed), Michelle laughed a little.
“What is it, Michelle?” I asked.
“Well, your groceries are kind of hokey, but other than that, I get it! Just as it’s impossible to judge an entire bag of groceries, it’s impossible to make a blanket statement about a person’s sexuality. It’s better to consider the specific parts of our sexualities and deal with them one by one.”
“Right!” I exclaimed. “And the more seriously we take the specifics, the less we even need the bags.”
For any given person in any given season of life, various elements of sexuality or clusters of elements may be placid, others active, and others troubled or even tormented. Viewed from the sexual identity perspective, a Christian “heterosexual” may seem to have godly sexuality. When their sexuality is unpacked, however, there may be important areas for healing or growth. The blanket statement that “heterosexuality is good” may even hinder this person from facing sexual struggles. On the flip side, in conservative settings a Christian “homosexual” may be written off as sinful or defective, though this person may have maturity and health in their sexuality that could benefit others.
Groceries can’t be carried home one by one; at some point they need to be put in a bag. Similarly, the many elements of our human sexuality get gathered up—but they don’t need to be separated into sexual identity categories; in my class exercise, the items in the “heterosexual” bag are identical to those in the “homosexual” bag. The elements of sexuality coalesce in our humanity. Sexuality is therefore better approached at the general level of humanity and the specific level of individuality, without the mediating level of sexual identity. We should all carry identical bags labeled “beloved,” from which we unpack the unique elements of our sexual lives. (More on this in chapter five.)
Sexual Holiness
Sexual identity categories offer a shortcut for evaluating sexuality that doesn’t devote proper attention to all the dimensions of human sexuality. It’s the equivalent of buying groceries by the bag, instead of item by item. As a child matures toward food independence, she needs a method for choosing foods. That method may never be explicit, but she might use criteria such as taste, food quality, cost and her unique health concerns. To a certain extent, her choices will be like all other humans; we all need water and a supply of calories balanced between protein, fat, carbohydrates, vitamins and minerals. In other ways, her choices will be unique. She may need to accommodate diabetes or lactose-intolerance, for instance, or may want to gain or lose weight. She might prefer rice over potatoes, or lamb over beef, depending on how she was raised.
Sexual holiness is an approach for making sober judgments about sexuality. In describing sexual holiness, I borrow from the Holiness tradition (since it’s their name, surely they’ve developed a good definition!). John Wesley described holiness as love of God and neighbor, which is Jesus’ description of the greatest commandment (Matthew 22:34-40). Wesleyan theologian Mildred Wynkoop says Wesley’s theology of love was less about systematic or dogmatic conclusions and more about the dynamics of a personal relationship with God: “Holiness is love locked into the True Center, Jesus Christ our Lord. Being ‘true,’ all of the self— and progressively all of life—comes into harmony and wholeness and strength.”1
When distorted, holiness is used as a synonym for morality, when really it’s about being more and more in love with God and with humanity. In the area of sexuality, specifically, sexual morality too easily becomes an idol, whether it’s premarital virginity, marital chastity or heterosexuality. People follow hard after it, measure their worth by it and are sometimes devastated when they offend it. Moreover, Christians teach others to measure their worth by morality rather than by their belovedness. When sexual morality is elevated to an idolatrous place, it diminishes people’s sense of being loved and being able to love, instead of being put in its place by love.
Being a lover, in the fullest sense, is an important part of human sexuality. When we pursue sexual holiness, we seek to give and receive love with God and with other people in and through our sexuality. Love draws us toward morality and right behavior, but it doesn’t demand that we do the right thing for the wrong reason, such as repressing or expressing sexuality in a “Christian” way for fear of hell or for need of approval from other Christians.
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Mark Gomez
1 Thess 4:3 "For this is the will of God, your sanctification; {that is,} that you abstain from sexual immorality;..."
Wes Widner
But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. -1 Corinthians 7:2
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous -Hebrews 13:4
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. -1 Corinthians 6:18
Mary Moser
Both Mark and Wes said it well. Scripture is sufficient. This day, time, it seems to me is like those of the book of Judges, when everyone did what seemed right to himself.
Mike
This piece exposes much of the deficiency of "scholarly" writing. Rarely has so little been said with so many words. In the end, what is needed on this issue is irenic clarity, not endless nuance, qualification, and obfuscation. The question about sexual identity begs foundational questions: 1) What does the Bible teach about our value as human beings? 2) What does the Bible teach about God's holy design for our sexual expression? On both counts, the Scriptural record is fairly clear. We have immense value, having been made in the image of God. And we are to physically express our sexuality in heterosexual behaviors or to restrain such behaviors outside of monogamous man-woman marriage. Furthermore, the question must be raised: "In discussing sexual identity, who or what group is most eager to use labels of sexual identity as the primary identity markers for themselves?" The answer is revealing. It is a shame that Paris so complicates a subject wth so much confusion.
Caitie
Hi Mike,
I think it is a shame that you so flippantly disregard and insult this writer because you judge her work as deficient scholarly writing. I highly doubt this piece was written exclusively for a scholarly audience even though Jenell is a scholar; by the tone and progression of argument, it seems like she was writing for a general audience who lives with broken lives and bleeding hearts everyday.
From reading this piece, I think the two of you would agree on the principles but disagree on presentation. She writes in a very down to earth, inductive way so that followers of Jesus who live and love LGBT friends can approach this topic with care and not the typical-bible-bullying that communicates nothing but hate. Jenell meets this issue where it is at and presents a new vocabulary for engaging the ideas with the power of the same truths but in a different, less offensive way.
Long gone are the days when only quoting what the bible says about sexuality effectively communicates the Truth to confessing Christians and the rest of culture (look at the statistics for divorce, abuse, etc. We look the same as the rest of culture. The church, as a whole, as failed to hold itself accountable and, for generations, has failed to communicate a compelling sexual narrative).
If communication is for the sake of the audience's understanding (and not our own need to speak) we need to figure out how to hold ourselves and our brothers and sisters accountable for failed marriages, fornication, and sexual abuse while communicating the depths and heights of God's love and grace. Like Leslie Newbigin wrote in Foolishness to the Greeks, we need to become missionaries to our culture and learn to speak their language so that they will hear have a framework for understanding.
Mike-it seems to me that you are attacking Jenell for an attempt to do just that. Read the entirety of her book and then have these discussions with those struggling with sexual identity and see which dialect exhibits God's heart the most.
Ryan Spellecy
It seems to me that all of you make valid points. Yes, Scripture is clear about sexual immorality. Yet Caitie highlights the important point that as Christians, we still have high rates of divorce, infidelity, and so forth. The author's point about moving beyond mere sexual acts and orientation and towards sexual holiness are well taken. We as Christians need to examine our own attitudes towards sex, with an eye towards holiness, and not just "It's hetero so it is OK." Caitie is also right that the days of merely quoting Scripture to unbelievers settles the debate are long gone. What do we want to do...win an argument, or save souls for Christ? That said, I do find it difficult to reconcile some of the author's comments with Scripture. Perhaps I need to check out her book.
Cedric
more to the point the deficiency of reading comprehension is exposed when reading the comments in response to a piece of "scholarly writing".
Jenelle is only fuzzy on the issue of homosexuality if you skim over the article and not take the time to read the whole thing. She is clearly believes that homosexual behavior is a sin and falls short of the holiness standard that God has communicated in scripture.
The point that she is making and possibly isn't as clear on (which is pardonable) is that we as Christians, aren't going to get anywhere calling people who consider themselves homosexual (an increasing number of which are also claiming to be Christian) to holiness arena of their sexual lives. As long as the discussion stays firmly rooted in terms of sexual identity we will never get past the surface of what the real issue is; the contents of the grocery bag. How do you live out holiness in the areas of desire, fantasy, behaviors, relationships, memories, hopes, thoughts, health and marriage.
Moreover, if it's about encouraging people to holiness and not just about who's right and who's wrong then anytime sexual identity is brought up someone will inevitably go to the claim or question, "what if they're born that way?" Well when you discard sexual identity and deal with the contents of the bag that Jenell mentions it's not long before marriage comes up. So irregardless of whether or not someone believes they were born that way or others are born that way, they have to confront the fact that biblical holiness in marriage is strictly defined as one man one woman.
Taylor Long
I may have misread the author, but this statement from the article above seems to get at the heart of what she is trying to do:
"The world in which Christians all agree about sexual issues is an imaginary one. Love of God and neighbor, the heart of holiness, has to be practiced in the real world in the midst of these disagreements."
I fear the author may be dismissive of the magnitude of the issue of sexuality throughout human history, and perhaps blind to the pervasive selfishness and idolatry that both the church and society have bought into in the area of sex in our day.
I agree that the greatest commandment is to love God, and the second is to love your neighbor (irregardless of whether they agree with you on every (or even any) issue). However, when we are talking about striving to be faithful as a Church, especially in the area of our sexuality and how we define it (which has profound implications for individuals, churches and society as a whole), we cannot allow the fact that not all Christians agree about sexual issues to reduce this topic to an interesting talking point with no real implications for the individual or the church, so long as we are all loving and civil about the conversation (and again, I don't know if this was the author's intent). To be faithful means to be willing to critique our own beliefs, to make sacrifices, to limit ourselves in the name of loving God by doing what is right.
For those interested in what I consider to be a more helpful approach to this issue, check out Sarah Williams talk "Sexuality in the Modern Paradigm". I couldn't sleep after I listened to that talk, and it still has me reeling.
Here is the address to it:
http://www.regentbookstore.com/product_details.php?item_id=75971
decarlisle
Keep the main thing the main thing. If you give any impression that homosexuality is condoned then you are in error.
Its not that we should stop them from coming to Christ but unless they truly want to repent same as someone in adultery they should be asked to leave. The Church must do its best to teach and help all in sin but we can't look at it likes it just babies nursing.
Look at what has happened to main stream Churches now they are falling away because of such practices. The interfaith movement and liberalism is not going to bring us back to Holiness but neither is the stiff necked conservative that does not have true love for his neighbor no matter what their persuasion is. I don't think anyone here wants anyone going down the wide path that leads to destruction.
Justin Czekanski
I agree that placing a label of hetero- or homosexuality is not biblical and leads to division rather than unity. On the other hand we must not forget that God has given us two options with regards to our sexuality, that is: marriage or being single.
I do not thing that if you are gay you cannot be saved, but if we want to be consistent with the Scripture - which is quite transparent when it comes to sexuality - God wanted to express unity and holiness through opposite sex marriages.
Even Jesus is called a bridegroom and the Church is called the Bride.
You, Dr. Paris, mention many misinterpretations but I thing that we have to stand firm: tolerance does not equal acceptance.
I do criticize homosexuality, but I also criticize addiction to pornography, premarital sex, etc.
Some of the supporters of the so called 'tolerance movement' would probably call me homophobic - not even understanding that the word they are using has a ridiculous meaning of : "being afraid of humans" (homo - human - as in homo sapiens; phobia - fear"
I don't want the message of Bible to be blurred by the teaching of tolerance. Sin is not wrong because some said so - it is wrong because it brings destruction and open the door for satan, who comes only to steal, kill and destroy.
But this teaching is not as easily acceptable simply because if you mention satan, in the eyes of the world you look like a weirdo. Isn't it so?
Let's just mention that sexual purity and holiness for that matter is what God desires for us not to restrain but to offer us freedom and happiness. I don't want to judge, but haven't we missed it in the church?
Ramesh
Hello, I am from India. I do not understand westerners' obsession with homosexuality. Here in India, homosexuality is banned as a "lewd and obscene act" and "harmful to public decency" under the penal code.
MCole
The Bible is not transparent when it comes to any issue and I think we border on being prideful (deadly sin) when we claim we know the answers to these questions as a certainty. Paul was also transparent when it came to slavery. Jesus seemed to be pretty transparent on the issue of divorce but why don't we hear about that issue as much. Be careful of hypocrisy.
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